Feeling Overwhelmed as a New Mom? Here’s How to Find Support That Actually Helps

Introduction:
Becoming a mom is life-changing, but it can also be overwhelming, especially when support dwindles after those first few weeks. Many mothers are left feeling isolated, exhausted, and wondering, “Where do I turn for help?” You’re not alone—and there are ways to build a support system that truly works for you.

1. Why Moms Feel Alone Postpartum:

   Here’s the thing - we can prep and prep and communicate our needs to everyone who will listen when we are pregnant, but in reality people fall off the side of the world once baby is born. There’s a “honeymoon” phase of sorts where everyone wants to see the baby (if you are comfortable with them coming by - that’s another blog post) and there is an outpouring of support in the first 6-8 weeks. Then life goes on for everyone else, THEY haven’t experienced this life changing event in the time frame you have. THEY have lives!

   Not that you don’t know that already - but there is a “support drop-off” phenomenon. Healthcare visits are further and further apart, lives are distracted with other things and the shift really becomes how the baby is doing - now how you are doing. The assumption is that “You’ve got this”, and even if you do (which you do) it doesn’t mean you don’t need support.

It is completely normal to feel alone, isolated or even abandoned in this period of your postpartum chapter, even if you have supports in your life. Your practical needs such as eating, hygiene and your own health get pushed off because you are priortizing baby and getting praise for that. Society is not built to support moms and this is not your fault.

1. How to Find Practical Support:

   Having practical support is key to reducing the overwhelm postpartum. If it is in your budget doulas are an incredible resource. It is literally their job to ensure you are getting the help you need postpartum. Joining mom groups can help to normalize these struggles, validate how you are feeling and also connect with other moms to trade off tasks if needed. Online communities can also provide extra supports (check out this list here for more resources).

2. Building Your Own Village:

   You don’t have to navigate the challenges of postpartum life alone (Call Me!). In all seriousness - even when the initial wave of help subsides, there are lots of ways to ensure you feel supported, connected, and empowered during this stage. Here’s how you can address the support drop-off and prioritize your well-being:

   1. Build Your Village for the Long Haul:
      Don’t hesitate to ask for help—it’s not a sign of weakness; it’s a strategy for success. Reach out to friends and family and set up regular check-ins, whether that’s a weekly visit, a quick phone call, or even someone stopping by to hold the baby while you shower. Support doesn’t have to fade; sometimes, you just need to remind others how they can help and that even if you are rockin’ this new role - and you are - you still need and deserve help.

   2. Join a Community That Gets You:
      Surround yourself with people who understand what you’re going through. Whether it’s a local mom group, an online forum, or a supportive community like ours, connecting with other moms can help you feel less alone and remind you that your struggles are normal—and temporary.

   3. Advocate for Yourself:
      Your needs matter. If you're still feeling emotionally or physically drained, speak up. Talk to your healthcare provider about ongoing support or resources that can help. And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that reaching out for professional guidance—like therapy or postpartum care—can make all the difference in your journey.

   4. Remember: You Deserve Care, Too:
      It’s easy to put yourself last when caring for a newborn, but your well-being is just as important as your baby’s. Prioritize self-care in whatever way feels possible—whether that’s a 10-minute walk, a hot cup of coffee, or a moment to simply breathe. Asking for and accepting support is a gift not just to yourself, but to your entire family.

   You’re not meant to do this alone. At Amber Sperling Social Work and Psychotherapy Services, we’re here to help you feel supported and empowered through every stage of motherhood. Let’s build your village together.

You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, let’s talk. At Amber Sperling Social Work and Psychotherapy Services, we’re here to provide the personalized care you need to feel supported every step of the way.